(Bob is the older one...)
Benjamin,
Karla, Beth, Peter, Laakkuluk, Tom, Nora, and Jean
I am sorry
that I am not in Saskatoon today for Bob’s funeral. The best funerals are terrific
celebrations of the deceased and, despite the tears, there is a lot of
laughter. I am sure that today will be a wonderful event. Bob has left a
tremendous amount to celebrate and a lot to laugh about.
To me,
one’s soul is the memory that one leaves behind. It is a collection of memories
and work and influence that lives on in the tender care of those that remain.
Bob has a very, very big soul.
I remember phoning,
“Williamson residence, Bob speaking.” The voice boomed. I remember the note
that was beside the phone instructing one in proper phone etiquette. And now,
every single time I answer my phone, I think of Bob when I say, “Hello, Dave
speaking.” In accordance with the note on the kitchen wall on Temperance, I
always identify myself. Bob taught me that, even though he didn’t know that he
did. I want to be like Bob.
I remember
visiting Temperance Street with Billy and Kristian, in particular. When
visiting I always hoped that Bob was there because he made the visit better –
more fun, funny, and enriching – because he took a genuine interest in me. He
cared.
I remember
many meals. The kitchen and the dining table were such a healthy family focus
in the Williamson house. And, I was always welcome. And the bread…. Oh, the
bread. There is no better bread in the world than a thick slice of Williamson
bread with butter. My kids tell me that their friends rarely eat together as a
family. Dinner is served, everyone reports to the kitchen, gets their food, and
goes back to whatever they were doing. My family eats together. If we are home,
we sit at the same table. We rarely have anything as marvelous as a Williamson
supper but we are together as often as practical. I want to be like Bob.
Of course I
remember Christmas. On at least two years I was up, had breakfast, opened
presents with my family, and then walked over to the William residence only to
discover that nobody was even out of bed?!?! I remember reading the packages
from Greenland. I remember Bob roaring with laughter. I suspect that it was
more to make me feel good than it was because it was that funny.
I remember
Bob serving me my first ever cigar and snifter of brandy. This may be the only
thing with which I disagree with Bob – I’ve tried, but I am not fond of brandy
or cigars. I wish I were there to indulge today, though.
My biggest
single memory of Bob is how he made me feel. One of my favorite pieces of
fatherly advice that I often repeat to my kids is, “Make it easy for people to
be around you.” Be polite and respectful. In my life I have known a very short
list of people who not only are easy to be around but who actually lift others
up. It seems to me that Bob’s greatest pleasure was in making other people feel
good. That is a beautiful way to be. And, I wish I was more like Bob. I wish I
could be with you to celebrate the life of a wonderful man who is a significant
formative influence in my life.
Love,
David